The Fear Of Greatness
People fear being great, so they simply don’t bother to try
They’ve been told that only others will be great, so they believe the lie
Their supervisors stifle their potential for greatness due to all types of fear, when instead they should be promoting them with all types of cheer
Greatness isn’t achieved by settling for less, nor is it merely a competition at being the best
Greatness is a state of mind that says, “I will give it my all and leave nothing behind”
The Fear Of Greatness is the same the Fear Of Success
It’s a disease that gnaws your at your insides like a savage, it lowers your bar of achievement to no more than average
Until you annihilate your The Fear Of Greatness, you will never be Great.
Over the years I have found that Helping Others Win is a very important assignment. As a matter of fact, it’s become my personal mission in life, it’s my mission statement. I’ve abbreviated to what I refer to as “I Love HOW!” It isn’t something that I originally set out to do, it’s simply something that I’ve done for as long as I can remember. Before I totally had this conceptualization, I would have countless people tell me that’s what I did, I helped others win. I don’t think that it’s coincidence that what I do for a living as a consultant, executive coach and strategist is Help Others Win.
As leaders, our primary goal should always be to help those around us win. As followers, our primary goal is to help those that we follow win. If those around us are winning, the organization wins and that’s a win win.
As parents it’s important to help our children win. We provide environments, teaching, structure, systems, beliefs and assistance that help create opportunities for their success.
As married couples, we must be wholly committed to helping one another win.
Helping Others Win is such a simple concept, but it’s often overlooked in this self-consuming day and age. It’s much easier for a boss to fire someone, a coach to give up on someone, a parent to be fed up with their wayward child and a spouse to hit the road than it is to commit to winning.
Charlie Sheen may have been off of his rocker a little bit when he was going on the “Winning” rampage, but the one thing he gets is the concept of Winning. In one of his random interviews in which the interview alluded to Sheen being bi-polar, Sheen was quoted as saying, “I’m not bi-polar, I’m bi-winning.”
We need to all become more like Charlie Sheen and be focused on bi-winning. In other-words, we should create situations and foster environments where everyone wins.
I’m reminded of the importance of Helping Others Win in this passage of scripture:
If you’ve gotten anything at all out of following Christ, if his love has made any difference in your life, if being in a community of the Spirit means anything to you, if you have a heart, if you care— then do me a favor: Agree with each other, love each other, be deep-spirited friends. Don’t push your way to the front; don’t sweet-talk your way to the top. Put yourself aside, and help others get ahead. Don’t be obsessed with getting your own advantage. Forget yourselves long enough to lend a helping hand. Philippians 2:1-4 MSG
Help Someone Win Today!
Lady Wisdom Gives a Thanksgiving Dinner Party
Lady Wisdom has built and furnished her home; it’s supported by seven hewn timbers. The banquet meal is ready to be served: lamb roasted, wine poured out, table set with silver and flowers. Having dismissed her serving maids, Lady Wisdom goes to town, stands in a prominent place, and invites everyone within sound of her voice: ”Are you confused about life, don’t know what’s going on? Come with me, oh come, have dinner with me! I’ve prepared a wonderful spread-fresh-baked bread, roast lamb, carefully selected wines. Leave your impoverished confusion and live! Walk up the street to a life with meaning.”
If you reason with an arrogant cynic, you’ll get slapped in the face; confront bad behavior and get a kick in the shins. So don’t waste your time on a scoffer; all you’ll get for your pains is abuse. But if you correct those who care about life, that’s different-they’ll love you for it! Save your breath for the wise-they’ll be wiser for it; tell good people what you know-they’ll profit from it. Skilled living gets its start in the Fear-of-God, insight into life from knowing a Holy God. It’s through me, Lady Wisdom, that your life deepens, and the years of your life ripen. Live wisely and wisdom will permeate your life; mock life and life will mock you… Proverbs 9:1-12 MSG
Humility is such a great virtue; it’s also one of the virtues that people will placate to try and claim their chunk of the humble pie. You know what I’m talking about, the people that walk around and say, “I’m just humble!” Give me a break; if you’re humble you’re humble, you don’t have to let everyone know. Humility is not something that you do or say, it’s the essence of who you are.
“True humility” is distinctly different from “False Humility.” True humility is about recognizing that all good and perfect gifts, talents and successes come from God. It’s about submitting to God and the earthly authority that God may place over you. True Humility happily embraces the successes, abilities and talents of others — particularly those that may surpass their own abilities. It’s about celebrating God’s blessings for yourself and others.
False Humility is about deprecating one’s own sanctity, successes, gifts, talents, and accomplishments for the sake of receiving praise or flattery from other people. You will see this play out when someone has an amazing gift from God and when people compliment them on those gifts they respond with something like, “Ohh no, I’m not any good… that was horrible… there are so many people that are better than I am etc.” Please STOP With The False Humility! A humble response is simply, “Thank You!” You thank them for their compliment and you thank God for the gifts that He has given you.
When you are truly thankful for the gifts that God has given you, understand that your confidence comes from God and honestly understand that it’s not about you… humility will come naturally. Please don’t confuse humility with the lack of confidence. The true reality is that humility and the confidence that “I can do all things through Christ” work in perfect tension.
Please STOP With The False Humility!
There are many different types of leaders out there. Many are leaders in title and position only, as their style and process is anything but leadership. One of those leader/position types is something I refer to as “The Justifying Leader.”
Justify [juhs-tuh-fahy] verb jus·ti·fied, jus·ti·fy·ing: to show (an act, claim, statement, etc.) to be just or right. to defend or uphold as warranted or well-grounded: to declare innocent or guiltless; absolve; acquit. to show a satisfactory reason or excuse for something done.
The Justifying Leader tends to justify many aspects of their
leadership lack of leadership.
7 Signs You May Be Working For A Justifying Leader
- 1. They fire twice as many people as they grow and develop.
- 2. They always have excuses for failures, challenges, shortcomings… and they rarely offer solutions for success.
- 3. They will quickly deflect, blame and point fingers and they rarely look in the mirror admit they are wrong and embrace the fact that everything rises and falls with their leadership.
- 4. They are quick to defend team members who have worn out their welcome to defend.
- 5. They justify the culture of turnover with the thought process that those leaving, “Didn’t have what it takes and they couldn’t hang.”
- 6. They consistently overlook negative and inappropriate behavior instead of confronting it head on.
- 7. They act totally different and get their “Chameleon” on when the big bosses show up. After all this would help them to look guiltless, good, innocent, awesome, warranted… (see definition above)
These are just some signs that you may be working for a Justifying leader, the sad thing is that Justifying Leader mays just be you.